How do you know if you are spoiling your child?

I ask this as I sit in my favorite spot in my basement, laptop on one leg and Kyan sleeping on the other.  This is often my favorite part of the day (Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, at least).   Kyan and I get to snuggle on the couch while Brooklyn is at school and the babies nap. 

It is one of the only times during the day where I have a chance to focus on just him.  With sister being a drama queen of the highest order and the babies simply outnumbering him, he is often left to his own easy going nature. 

While the rest of the house is in full fledged emotional turmoil, he is upstairs cuddling his Grabey and watching Teletubbies.  While Sister is performing her millionth show of the day, he is lining is cars up in rows and then packing them up in his purse over and over again.

I don’t necessarily think he minds hanging out by himself, but I do know that he enjoys having some one on one time.  Before the babies were born last year, we used to play a game of “cuddle you” after Sister went to school in the morning.  It started because I was too big and uncomfortable to do anything, so I would chase him into his room, flop onto the bed and snuggle up with books and toys until Sister came home. 

We both loved this game but it unfortunately ended when the babies came home.  In their newborn days they cried constantly, spit up constantly and needed 24 hour attention—leaving little time for cuddling and book reading.

Now, a year later, things have calmed down (somewhat), we are starting to get on a routine schedule, and I am able to spend time with my boy again.

It’s crazy to think how fast time has gone and how much my baby has changed.  He is going to be 3 in a couple of months and when I look back at pictures of him last year I am amazed at how much he has changed. 

I was so focused on my pregnancy and getting through the first years of twins that I forgot to pay attention to the small things in Kyan’s life.

So, am I spoiling him by letting him snuggle with me every day?  I don’t think so.  I like to think I’m making up for what I missed.